Relationships- 5 Love Languages
Have you ever heard of the 5 Love Languages? Gary Chapman, who is an expert in marriage, first wrote the book titled The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate in 1995. The five languages are:
Words of Affirmation
Acts of Service
The 5 Love Languages help decide which is the best way someone gives and receives love. All five love languages seem self explanatory, but let’s break down what they actually mean.
If your love language is Words of Affirmation, praise and appreciation are the ways to show you someone loves you. You want to be acknowledged and thanked for something you’ve done.
Speaking the Acts of Service language means someone has to actually do something for you in order for you to feel loved. Let’s put it this way- actions speak louder than words. You’ve heard that before, right? Well in this case, it’s true. If you speak this language, someone who loves you must do something in order to express their love to you.
If you speak the language of Receiving Gifts, then you love gifts of all sorts ranging from little “I thought of you” to more extravagant gifts. To really show someone appreciates and loves you, they will bring you something thoughtful and you’ll be pleased.
The language of Quality Time speakers seek just that… quality time. Gifts, words of affirmation, and acts of service don’t mean anything to you if you can’t spend some good, quality time with someone you love. Being around someone who is always “too busy” may be a deal breaker.
Physical Touch language speakers are the huggers. You value a good hug, arm around the shoulders, and just a genuine sign of affection. Little things matter such as a simple hand on the shoulder or hand on the knee. The sense of touch sends a spark of electricity through you.
You may feel like one or more of these match your personality. No doubt, one will be stronger than the other. If you want to find out YOUR love language, click here to take the free quiz!